Lockdown Reflections

Lockdown Reflections:


Pooh woke up that morning, and, for reasons that he didn't entirely understand, couldn't stop the tears from coming. He sat there in bed, his little body shaking, and he cried, and cried, and cried.

Amidst his sobs, the phone rang.

It was Piglet.

"Oh Piglet," said Pooh, between sobs, in response to his friend's gentle enquiry as to how he was doing. "I just feel so Sad. So, so, Sad, almost like I might not ever be happy again. And I know that I shouldn't be feeling like this. I know there are so many people who have it worse off than me, and so I really have no right to be crying, with my lovely house, and my lovely garden, and the lovely woods all around me. But oh, Piglet: I am just SO Sad."

Piglet was silent for a while, as Pooh's ragged sobbing filled the space between them. Then, as the sobs turned to gasps, he said, kindly: "You know, it isn't a competition."

"What isn't a competition?" asked a confused sounding Pooh.

"Sadness. Fear. Grief," said Piglet. "It's a mistake we often make, all of us. To think that, because there are people who are worse off than us, that that somehow invalidates how we are feeling. But that simply isn't true. You have as much right to feel unhappy as the next person; and, Pooh - and this is the really important bit - you also have just as much right to get the help that you need."

"Help? What help?" asked Pooh. "I don't need help, Piglet.

"Do I?"

Pooh and Piglet talked for a long time, and Piglet suggested to Pooh some people that he might be able to call to talk to, because when you are feeling Sad, one of the most important things is not to let all of the Sad become trapped inside you, but instead to make sure that you have someone who can help you, who can talk through with you how the Sad is making you feeling, and some of the things that might be able to be done to support you with that.

What's more, Piglet reminded Pooh that this support is there for absolutely everyone, that there isn't a minimum level of Sad that you have to be feeling before you qualify to speak to someone.

Finally, Piglet asked Pooh to open his window and look up at the sky, and Pooh did so.

"You see that sky?" Piglet asked his friend. "Do you see the blues and the golds and that big fluffy cloud that looks like a sheep eating a carrot?"

Pooh looked, and he could indeed see the blues and the golds and the big fluffy cloud that looked like a sheep eating a carrot.

"You and I," continued Piglet, "we are both under that same sky. And so, whenever the Sad comes, I want you to look up at that sky, and know that, however far apart we might be physically...we are also, at the same time, together. Perhaps, more together than we have ever been before."

"Do you think this will ever end?" asked Pooh in a small voice.

"This too shall pass," confirmed Piglet. "And I promise you, one day, you and I shall once again sit together, close enough to touch, sharing a little smackerel of something...under that blue gold sky."

Please take care of your mental health.

Contact me on 0834380279 if you need to talk.

Warm regards Colleen

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Some thoughts from a wise SA futurist Graeme Codrington :


LOCKDOWN REFLECTIONS DAY 49: 


Don’t make big decisions under stress


We are all stressed right now. For different reasons, we are all experiencing deep levels of trauma. That’s not an overstatement for effect. What is happening around us and to us is traumatic.

Just a simple reminder then to not make massive life decisions while you’re in this state. I am sensing people evaluating their long term relationships, their jobs, their life choices, where they live, who they live with, career options and more. Sure, many things will change because of Covid. And this crisis time is shining a spotlight on our lives in ways that are quite revealing of possibly hidden truths.

But maybe I can rewrite that last sentence as: revealing of hidden possibly-truths.

You see, when you’re stressed and traumatised, you literally don’t see the world properly. Your brain doesn’t process things accurately. And your decision making will be sub optimal.

Keep that in mind. Don’t make a decision now that you will regret later. Give yourself permission to live in the not-knowing moment, in this time-between-times, without committing to a new course just yet, especially if that new course involves significant change with the potential for broken relationships, broken dreams and broken promises.


Please remember to take care of your mental health during these stressful times.


Please note that my practice remains open during lockdown. I will continue consulting via online platforms 

or fact to face sessions. 


Please contact me on 0834380279 should you wish to secure an appointment.


Kind regards

Colleen